life

by Kristina Sloggett

in Basil is a Young Sportsman,Portland,yard & garden

I have had plenty of perspective – giving moments this week.

I don’t want to get into many details, but I want to explain my absence this week and what will most likely follow for a while.

Dad went into the hospital a week ago today.

Before we left for Mexico over the holidays, he was to have his third and final surgery – the most important one. This did not happen, due to complications.

Last Friday we found out those complications are cancer.

He was admitted to prepare for chemo – instead there are more complications – he has spent most of the week in ICU with pneumonia.

Needless to say, everything else in life just stops – my main focus right now is my dad, and getting him better.

I am also watching our yard fill with water.

The rain, and the lessons in perspective, can stop now. We have had enough.

I miss you all – I miss the daily interaction here and out there – I bring my laptop to the hospital and check in when I can.

Go hug your loved ones for me, okay?

 

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1 Megan January 20, 2012 at 10:04 am

I’m so sorry! Many hugs and thinking of you!

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2 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:30 am

thank you, Megan – I appreciate it a lot.

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3 Victoria (District Chocoholic) January 20, 2012 at 10:05 am

I’m so sorry to hear about your father.

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4 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:29 am

thank you, Victoria <3

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5 Jess January 20, 2012 at 10:06 am

Oh friend, I am so sad for you. Sending you lots of hugs and positive energy and strength. I’m thinking of you and your family, my dear. Hugs.

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6 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:29 am

thanks, Jess – I’m feeling the positive energy and strength – it means more than you know!

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7 StoriesAndSweetPotatoes January 20, 2012 at 10:06 am

Good thoughts to you and your family.

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8 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:27 am

thank you SO much, it means a lot <3

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9 Jessica @ Dairy Free Betty January 20, 2012 at 10:09 am

Oh my goodness – my hearts broken for you.

Sending you prayers and love. please let me know if you need anything at all!

xo

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10 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:27 am

thank you, Jess – that means a lot. I am drinking the clarity tea you sent me <3

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11 Lynn F January 20, 2012 at 10:10 am

I am so sorry too honey…. Find your zen in all this. Thinking of you♄

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12 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:26 am

thanks, Lynn – I have moments of zen. then moments of crazy. then back to zen. <3

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13 jobo January 20, 2012 at 10:10 am

Aw, girl,I am so sorry to hear this. My prayers with you and your family and I am sending you strength and courage. XOXO.

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14 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:26 am

thank you SO much – your prayers mean more than you could know. XO

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15 Jenn L @ Peas and Crayons January 20, 2012 at 10:10 am

I remember how things were when my dad got cancer and I’m so so sorry love. I’m here if you ever need to talk/vent or even just be distracted with hyperness ;) whatever you need – i’m here! love you! my heart will be with you guys

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16 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:25 am

thank you, Jenn. I may take you up on that – I know we never had our chat date, but I’d love some distracting email time. fill me in on what’s new? feel free to chat and blather. love you!

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17 veganlinda January 20, 2012 at 10:10 am

I am so sorry to hear about your dad. My mother went in for surgery ten years ago and they found cancer on her liver. My thoughts are with you and your dad.

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18 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:24 am

thank you so much, Linda – your thoughts mean a lot. <3

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19 Abby January 20, 2012 at 10:12 am

Like they say, we need the rain to see the rainbows. Cheesy and trite? Perhaps, but you’ll get through this as well. I’m keeping you and your family in my thoughts, my friend. Hang in there!

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20 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:24 am

not cheesy to me, Abby – it is so true. I’m looking for the rainbow every day – and I know it will appear in some way. thank you – your friendship is so very appreciated <3

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21 Christin@purplebirdblog January 20, 2012 at 10:13 am

Still loving you. Still praying. xoxo

And I just found out my Dad is in the hospital too. He’s in cardiac ICU for what they think is pneumonia, but he’s apparently doing better now that he’s on oxygen. My dad is in and out of the hospital frequently with a plethora of medical issues, and when he’s up there and I’m down here I feel so helpless. My sister assures me he is doing better, but I’m a little numb about the situation in general. :/

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22 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:23 am

I am so sorry your Dad is down too – BOTH our dads are in CICU – my dad was moved yesterday from ICU to cardiac… still has pneumonia. Sending prayers and healing thoughts to your dad – sorry you are going through this from a distance. <3

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23 Christin@purplebirdblog January 24, 2012 at 10:26 am

Talking to my dad, he sounds better, but he never tells me the truth about how bad it may be. And my sister’s power has been out and I can’t get a hold of her either (she’s usually a lot more forthcoming about his state than he is). UGH. Just trusting that all will be well soon enough… for both our dads. <3

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24 Char @ www.charskitchen.ca January 20, 2012 at 10:17 am

I don’t even know what to say :( big hugs to you & your family <3

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25 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:21 am

thank you, Char. you said exactly the right thing <3

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26 Miriam @ Sometimes I Veg January 20, 2012 at 10:20 am

I hope that the sunshine after the rain will happen soon. It’s heartbreaking to have to worry about your dad. Hoping for a full recovery. We will be here when your life gets back together.

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27 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:21 am

Miriam – your wonderful words brought (positive) tears – I am hoping for sunshine soon as well… thank you. <3

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28 Heather @ Better With Veggies January 20, 2012 at 10:22 am

I am sorry to hear about your dad and that you’re having to go through this as a family – I know this has got to be a really hard time for you. Just know that I’m praying for you (and your family)!

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29 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:20 am

Heather I really appreciate it – your prayers mean more than you could know.

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30 Laura @ Sprint 2 the Table January 20, 2012 at 10:23 am

I lost my dad a few years ago after an extended illness… and I know how terrible it is to go through all of this. I’m so sorry you’r having you. Lots of love to you and your dad.

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31 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:19 am

thank you Laura – sorry you went through that – you definitely know what I am thinking, feeling, doing. I appreciate the love <3

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32 katie January 20, 2012 at 10:29 am

I miss you and I do not even know the words to say, I am so sorry for this rough time in your life. I am sending your dad love and prayers and am hoping that they caught it early enough and he will fight through!

Lots of love to you <3

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33 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:18 am

thank you so much, Katie. your love and prayers mean a great deal to me. <3

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34 bitt January 20, 2012 at 10:32 am

SO sorry what a rough time for your family. You are lucky you can be with him, that is a precious gift you have right now. Enjoy it.

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35 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:17 am

thank you, Wise Bitt! :) you are so right – I am lucky to have him and have the time to just be… <3

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36 kirsten January 20, 2012 at 10:33 am

That sucks! I hope your dad gets better. *HUG*

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37 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:16 am

thank you, Kirsten – I appreciate it. hugs to you!

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38 Gina @ Running to the Kitchen January 20, 2012 at 10:35 am

My heart goes out to you and your family. Praying for your dad and your house. <3

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39 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:15 am

thanks, Gina. house is good now – river went down and is no longer in the yard… I appreciate your prayers <3

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40 Lindsay @ Lindsay's List January 20, 2012 at 10:37 am

OH KRIS! I’m so so sorry! Praying now!

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41 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:15 am

Lindsay, I really appreciate your prayers. your friendship means a lot to me! <3

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42 Heather (Where's the Beach) January 20, 2012 at 10:43 am

I’m so sorry to hear this news my friend. Big virtual hugs. I’ll definitely be thinking about you and your family.

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43 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:14 am

thank you Heather – your thoughts are appreciated <3 hugs back to you!

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44 Carbzilla January 20, 2012 at 10:45 am

Oh hon, I’m so sorry.

We’re not going anywhere. Just do what you need to do for your family, your house, and your heart. We’ll be here when you get back.

Hugs.

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45 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:14 am

thank you so much, friend – that is good to hear. hugs back to you!

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46 Katie @ Healthy Heddleston January 20, 2012 at 10:51 am

Keeping you and your whole family in my prayers.

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47 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:13 am

Katie, that means more than you know – thank you!

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48 Ali @ Around the VeggieTable January 20, 2012 at 10:58 am

So sorry to hear this…your whole family will be in my prayers!

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49 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:13 am

thank you SO much, Ali – that is much appreciated <3

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50 natalie (the sweets life) January 20, 2012 at 11:17 am

I am so very sorry :( hang in there my dear–will be praying for you!

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51 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:12 am

thank you Natalie – your prayers are so appreciated right now!

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52 Cadry January 20, 2012 at 11:17 am

I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Hard times have a way of putting things in perspective and reminding us of what is truly important. Loving light and thoughts to you and your family.

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53 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:12 am

thank you Cadry – I love when I see perspective, it is important, no doubt. It can be finished now, though :) thank you for your thoughts, they are much appreciated <3

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54 Averie @ Love Veggies and Yoga January 20, 2012 at 11:22 am

I am so very, very sorry Kris. I am thinking of you and your family and sending prayers and love :)

xo

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55 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:10 am

thank you, Averie! and I appreciate your recent emails – really! it’s nice to have distractions and touches of real life. keep them coming! :)

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56 jess January 20, 2012 at 11:39 am

xo.

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57 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:09 am

XXO

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58 Dorry January 20, 2012 at 11:49 am

so sorry, dear friend! prayers, hugs and so much love coming your way. glad you posted about it here – hopefully getting some of the thoughts our of your head and into a post helped in some small way…and feeling the support from your friends around the world. love you.

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59 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:09 am

sweet Dorry – I appreciate your words always. I wasn’t sure about posting here, but so many were asking after me. It is good to check in and see the support from my online community. It helps me continue.

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60 Heather @ girlyeverafter January 20, 2012 at 11:49 am

I’m so sorry and am thinking about you and your family.

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61 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:07 am

thank you, Heather – I appreciate that.

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62 Mindy @ Clueless Nut January 20, 2012 at 11:58 am

I read often but don’t comment as much as I should! Thinking about you and your family and hoping God will wrap his arms around you all during this rough time.

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63 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:07 am

Mindy, thank you for your kind words – I appreciate it a lot (and thank you for commenting!) :)

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64 Hally January 20, 2012 at 12:07 pm

Oh, Kristina. I’m so sorry to hear this! It’s got to be so tough on you… I’ll keep you and your father in my thoughts and send positive vibes your way. I hope the rain stops soon, that water level looks pretty scary! xoxo

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65 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:06 am

the water level WAS scary – thankfully the river has gone down and is no longer in our yard. thank you SO much, Hally – your positive thoughts are sp appreciated. <3

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66 Jessica @ Stylish Stealthy and Healthy January 20, 2012 at 1:29 pm

Definitely keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

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67 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:05 am

thank you Jessica! your thoughts and prayers are very much appreciated.

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68 Mama Pea January 20, 2012 at 2:53 pm

Praying for you and your dad, sweet friend. <3

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69 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:04 am

thank you, Sarah – that means a lot to me.

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70 Sarena (The Non-Dairy Queen) January 20, 2012 at 3:59 pm

I am here for you if you need a virtual shoulder. I am so sorry you are going through so much right now. My thoughts, prayers and love are with you and your family my dear friend.

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71 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:03 am

thank you SO much, dear friend! your prayers and friendship help a lot!

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72 Stephanie@MyThornsHaveRoses January 20, 2012 at 4:30 pm

Like the pops of green in these photos I hope you’re able to find the bright spots during this tough time, Kris. I’m so sorry for the pain that this part of life has you experiencing. Stay strong. You’re in my thoughts. xoxo

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73 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:03 am

thank you so much, Stephanie – that means a great deal to me. I am seeing much more green these days – the river has gone down some and is not in our yard any longer! :)

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74 Jillian@whiskeydrinkinchimneysweep.com January 20, 2012 at 4:34 pm

I’m so sorry. I hugged my little one and you are in my thoughts.

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75 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:02 am

thank you so much, Jillian!

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76 lindsay January 20, 2012 at 4:42 pm

thinking and praying for you Kris. Praying for your family, praying for you dad! Please know i am here for ANYTHING! Sending a virtual hug your way.

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77 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 10:01 am

thank you, Lindsay – your friendship, support and prayers mean so much more than you know. actually, you probably do know. love you.

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78 mightyvegan January 20, 2012 at 4:50 pm

So sorry about your poor dad! Hoping you hear some good news about him soon!

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79 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:59 am

thank you SO much – still hoping for good news too – he has good days, then takes a step back. it’s a process. your words mean more than you know! XO

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80 Pure2raw Twins January 20, 2012 at 5:22 pm

thinking of you, your dad and whole family! Praying that good news comes soon!!
HUGS

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81 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:58 am

thank you SO much – I am hoping for good news too. <3

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82 Lauren @ www.cravingsgoneclean.com January 20, 2012 at 5:27 pm

So sorry to hear about your dad. Hugs to you, and hope things start to turn around right now!

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83 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:57 am

thank you so much, Lauren! Dad is pretty much the same, improving a little. River is not in our yard anymore, so I can once again focus all energy on Dad. your words are much appreciated <3

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84 Kath (My Funny Little Life) January 20, 2012 at 5:51 pm

Oh Kris …

Hugs and hugs and hugs and hugs to you, and all my best thoughts and wishes are going over to you and your dad right now …

I’m thinking of you and praying for you!

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85 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:56 am

your prayers are so appreciated, kath. Basil gives the best hugs right now, you know?? pups know when they need to give extra. :)

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86 Kath (My Funny Little Life) January 20, 2012 at 5:52 pm

And when there’s anything I can do for you, just let me know!

<3

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87 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:55 am

thank you, dear friend! that means more than you could know <3

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88 Liz (Little Bitty Bakes) January 20, 2012 at 6:47 pm

Aw, hang in there! Thinking of you, your dad and family…

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89 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:54 am

thank you, Liz – much appreciated <3

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90 Marty January 20, 2012 at 7:14 pm

Many prayers to you and your Father Kris. I pray that he’s getting the best care that he can and you do what you can to support him by taking care of yourself. I pray that your home is damaged by the flooding either.

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91 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:54 am

thank you, Marty – your prayers and messages mean a lot. he is receiving exceptional care, and he is incredibly strong and positive.

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92 Marty January 20, 2012 at 7:15 pm

OMG! Your home IS NOT damaged by the flooding!!!!

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93 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:53 am

ha – I know what you meant! :) yes, the water has receded – not in the yard anymore – WHEW.

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94 Sue January 20, 2012 at 7:17 pm

Hugs-lots.

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95 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:52 am

thank you, Sue – means a lot!

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96 Shirley @ gfe January 20, 2012 at 7:19 pm

Oh, Kristina, my heart goes out to you all. Sending big hugs, good thoughts, and lots of prayers, dear.

xoxo,
Shirley

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97 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:52 am

thank you so much, dear friend – it means a great deal to me. XO

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98 Jennie (the gf-gf) January 20, 2012 at 7:57 pm

So sorry to hear about your dad, Kris.

I gave some extra hugs today, and hope you’re getting extra hugs – especially from basil!

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99 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:50 am

Basil has been SO good to me – they know when something is up, you know?? thank you for your thoughts – and I’m glad you gave some extra hugs! :)

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100 Eselpee January 20, 2012 at 9:31 pm

Wow – hugs and prayers.

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101 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:49 am

thank you!

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102 Eleah January 20, 2012 at 9:49 pm

So sorry to hear.. my dad fought (and beat) cancer. It was incredibly hard for the family but he was SO strong. Just envision your family coming out the other side of the ordeal. Sending my best wishes.

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103 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:49 am

I am envisioning that, Eleah! :) I have seen this enough to know that attitude and positive energy means SO much – so we are positive and surrounding him with strength and love. thank you so much.

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104 Sayward January 20, 2012 at 11:57 pm

Thinking of you sweetie. I’m here if you need anything at all!

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105 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:48 am

thank you, Sayward, that is much appreciated XO

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106 Carrie January 21, 2012 at 9:00 am

My thoughts are with you and your family, Kristina.

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107 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:47 am

thank you so much, Carrie. XO

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108 JL goes Vegan January 21, 2012 at 9:53 am

You are in my thoughts, dear friend. We are all here for you. xo

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109 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:47 am

thank you JL, that means a great deal. XO

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110 Natasha January 21, 2012 at 10:20 am

There are no words at times…I’m very sorry that your father is suffering, and so is your family. Please know there are so many who love your blog…and I think that you should try to keep in touch – it can be something to draw strength from…If your dad is able to have you make him some nutrient rich smoothies – do it girl. I’m sending you love and light.
- Natasha from Nova Scotia

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111 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:47 am

Natasha, thank you! I know what you mean about no words, but yours are wonderful and mean a great deal to me! Right now Dad is on a feeding tube, but as soon as I possibly can I WILL be making him smoothies and all sorts of healing foods! Sometimes I am so exhausted (and I have no words!) but yes, I know it is helpful to stay in touch when I can… today is a good day so I am! thank you, you gave me a punch of energy!

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112 Natasha January 24, 2012 at 9:58 am

:) Thank you for taking the time! Your blog has helped me through many a rough day…I laugh at Basil, drool over your food, and love your flare! Today it is pouring, my life is in a bit of a ahem…”shit storm” as I like to call it…so – today – I took a nice hot shower, cleaned my kitchen, and talked myself off of the proverbial “mental ledge”, AND! tonight….I will be making Raw Sauerkraut in my fermenting crock for the first time! Draw yourself a hot epsom salts bath, soak, slather some coconut oil on (or whatever feels good) – pour yourself a glass of wine (have some water after your bath first) and snuggle with Mr. Basil…xo Natasha

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113 Lisa January 21, 2012 at 5:53 pm

I’m sorry you are going through this. I hope it’s a “good” cancer that is curable. My thoughts are with you guys. Big hugs!!!!!

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114 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:44 am

thank you, Lisa. I hope it is too.

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115 Kris @Krazy_Kris January 21, 2012 at 9:14 pm

xoxoxo

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116 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:42 am

XXO!

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117 Andrea January 21, 2012 at 9:14 pm

Thinking of you and your Dad. Hope all goes well. And hoping the waters recede sooner rather than later.

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118 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:41 am

thank you so much, Andrea! yard is no longer under water, our river is still high but WAY down! I appreciate your thoughts XO

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119 Tiffany January 22, 2012 at 8:21 am

Oh Kristina, I don’t even know what to say except that I’m praying for your family. Stay strong.

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120 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:40 am

thanks, Tiffany – I appreciate the prayers. Dad is strong, so that helps keep me strong! XO

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121 Michelle January 22, 2012 at 9:58 am

We love you.

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122 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:40 am

thank you Michelle!! MISS YOU, and love you too! XO

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123 Erin January 22, 2012 at 8:43 pm

Kristina, I’m thinking of you and your family. I’m so sorry.

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124 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:39 am

thanks, Erin – it means a lot <3

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125 Richa@HobbyandMore January 22, 2012 at 9:35 pm

I am so sorry Kristina. You all will be in our prayers everyday.

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126 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:39 am

thank you so much, Richa!

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127 Roz@weightingfor50 January 23, 2012 at 10:37 am

Oh Kris! I am SOOO sorry to read this. Please know nothing but good wishes are coming your way down the coast from me. Take care of yourself while you take care of everything else. BIG HUG!!!

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128 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:38 am

thank you SO much, Roz. I appreciate your message and good wishes – it helps.

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129 Nichole January 23, 2012 at 1:51 pm

Love you and praying for you.

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130 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:38 am

thank you, dear friend! your prayers are much appreciated, as is your friendship!

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131 Molly@hungryhungryrunner.com January 23, 2012 at 6:27 pm

I am so, so sorry. Sending you positive thoughts, prayers and lots and lots of love!

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132 spabettie January 24, 2012 at 9:37 am

thank you Molly, it means a lot to me.

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133 Sarah @ The Smart Kitchen January 24, 2012 at 9:41 am

Oh, goodness! I’m just reading this now, and sending you BIG hugs through the net-waves…love, love, and more love coming y’alls way.

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134 Lauren @ Oatmeal after Spinning January 24, 2012 at 9:42 am

Big hugs and warm wishes to you. So sorry you are going through this. Thank you for letting us know.

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135 hihorosie January 24, 2012 at 9:41 pm

I am so sorry! Many prayers and healing thoughts being sent your Dad’s way.

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136 spabettie January 26, 2012 at 11:55 am

thank you <3

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